Mark Travers, PhD, a psychologist who focuses on the science of relationships, recently published four hard truths about marriage. His observations, based on three decades of experience, provide a sober perspective on what it takes to create enduring and satisfying relationships. About the authors Travers is the chief psychologist at Awake Therapy and founder of Therapytips.org.
Travers highlights the work involved in first being fully formed as individuals in a coupling to be strong within itself. Oxenreider thinks a happy marriage should be made up of two full people. They complement one another, not in order to be whole, but because it makes them more whole. This view pokes holes in the fairy tale notion of meeting your “other half,” emphasizing the importance of personal development and independence.
For younger and older couples alike, it’s important to admit that individuals grow, priorities can change and so do circumstances in life. Love alone doesn’t cut it, says Travers. It’s daily choices, and it’s commitment—that is what really makes the difference.
Travers also tackles the pervasive expectation that a partner needs to meet every single one of your needs. He feels like it’s unreasonable to expect one person to fulfill every emotional, social and intellectual needs. So couples need to realize that the only people they could possibly be compatible enough to never argue with don’t exist and that every couple has fights occasionally.
Mark Travers, PhD, received his degrees from Cornell University and the University of Colorado Boulder. He’s the lead psychologist at Awake Therapy, a telehealth start-up specializing in online psychotherapy, counseling, and coaching. He curates Therapytips.org, a website devoted to holistic mental health and creative wellness resources.
Travers doesn’t stop there with his clinical and online work. He is one of the main instructors for CNBC’s popular online course, “How to Start a Side Hustle.” He shares a good introductory discount on his online course as well. You can use the coupon code EARLYBIRD to get 30% off the full price of $97, taxes and fees included. This special promotion runs through April 1, 2025!
